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A sleep therapist's night routine, for people who've tried everything

Tony Ho works with people whose sleep stopped working months or years ago. Not a bad week — the kind where it's 3am again and you're staring at the ceiling doing arithmetic about how many hours are left.

12

Guided
practices

6

Podcast
episodes

10

Minutes
a night

It works by repetition. The first night won't tell you much, and the first two weeks are the hard part.

You've tried everything on this list

Melatonin Magnesium No screens after 9 A meditation app White noise Herbal tea Prescription A tracker

Some of it worked for a week, then stopped. Some of it was money down the drain. What none of it touched is the thing that actually happens at 3am — a brain that won't shut off, and everything you've learned to do about being awake.

Sleep hygiene isn't enough once the problem is established. That's not a criticism of your habits. It's the reason habits stopped being the answer.

No sequence to finish

Twelve practices, sorted by what they're for. You pick the one that fits the night you're having.

Attention

Before you get into bed

Body

Wired but tired

Acceptance

It's 3am again

Visualization

Brain won't shut off

Listen to one now

This is the one for 3am, when you've been awake long enough to have given up on the night.

Welcoming Wakefulness

Welcoming Wakefulness

Acceptance-based practice

0:000:00

His opening question is why this doesn't sound like the app you already deleted: why would you welcome being awake when all you want is to sleep?

Who made this

Night routine created by Tony Ho, CBT-I/ACT-I practitioner at Quadra Wellness.

Talking therapies for insomnia — they work on what you do at night and how you respond to being awake. Not on anything you swallow.

This isn't for you if

You sleep fine most nights and want something for the occasional bad one

You want a pill

You want something that works tonight — the first two weeks are the hard part

You just want something to fall asleep to. Plenty of apps do that, and they cost nothing

You haven't tried anything yet. Start with the simple things first

Try the first night

4

practices

3

episodes

3

sounds

What the practice asks for

Darkness

Every practice asks you to close your eyes and keep your attention inward. A sliver of light ruins it.

The same cue

Repeated often enough, a scent stops being a smell and becomes the signal that the practice is starting.

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